Resentment

Why are so many full of resentment? At first thought of the word, I thought of a scorn woman. Resentment defined is the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult. So after getting an understanding of the definition. That opens the door for male and female to harbor resentment. There's often some resentment tied to unresolved family, work, or monogamous relationships. I'll talk on the latter because that's where I feel the most resentment lives. Failing and refusing to forgive breeds resentment. When we harbor resent it hardly ever bothers the person whom we resent but it gnaws away at us to no end. In my opinion resentment is a passive and weak emotion. Refusing to deal with the person and problem and wholeheartedly opposed to forgiving them. By doing such you give the devil and invite in (Ephesians 4:26-27) and you refuse forgiveness from God (Matthew 6:14-15).

"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die."
- Malachy McCourt

Lets take a look at how resentment tears at the fabric of our lives (Job 5:2). Resentment leads to an extreme sense of self-interest. We are inclined to think of ourselves first. When in a relationship, thoughts that the other person will hurt us. I think we can all testify that due to resentment we have let a "good one" slip by us. Men and women are victims of resentment. We've all been hurt and victims of love, and I use that loosely. From my experience, women tend to put up a wall of protection and unknowingly find themselves trapped and surrounded with emotion. Men have a tendency to become more promiscuous and want every woman to feel the hurt he experienced. What a terrible way to live life. As I blogged previously, loving yourself and having a relationship with God should take precedence. Then when God is finished with you and it's his will, love will find you. The only credit I'll give resentment is that it is the author and inspiration to some of the greatest arts an music. Be strong enough yourself to deal with anger, pain, resentment. Pray, then free it forgiveness and love.

"To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.”
- C.S. Lewis

I'm going to veer off but it will come full circle. Liars, cheaters, and the deceitful are the main culprits when it comes to resentment. The devil is the father of the deceitful (Acts 13:10). God hates a lying tongue. Satan is the father of lies (John 8:44), so it makes sense that God hates lying. It's a true saying that bad things happen to good people. Some are truly victims of a lying deceitful person. I recommend those good people let it go to God. Now as I stated previously the majority of us are guilty of harboring resentment. But have we stopped to ponder and be truthful with ourselves that we are the reason someone else may have resentment in their heart? You may lie and be deceitful in other aspects of your life; but when you reap the sowing of those lies who is to know? Could it be we are victims of our own transgressions? The golden rule states, do unto others as you would have them do unto you,
(Matthew 7:12), sums up The Law and Prophets. Let's look go in-depth at the vicious cycle that resentment creates. Since our minds are flooded and fogged with resentment it makes it a challenge to love. We become spiritually blind and and in turn lie and be deceitful to protect ourselves. We are then opposing what is of God (LOVE), holy and good and replace it with evil tendencies unknowingly. No one wants to take responsibility, so there is a perpetual cycle of lies, deceit and hurt. Robbing the world of love and leaving us to settle for impulsive, short lived relationships. Devoid of LOVE.

There is no love without forgiveness and there is no forgiveness without love.
- Bryant H. McGill

I'll leave you with last thought. Stop being a hostage to your own emotions. The love of God that resides in you should never be overtaken and conquered by the lies and deceit of a human being. You are only defeated when you agree that you are. God Bless!

1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.

- Chaz Gerard Tyler

Gun Control

With a harshly contentious gun ban battle being waged. Gun control is a political gambit to appease the majority. This is further separating the country along with topic of abortion and economic failure. Reminds me of Ancient Greece. Domestic problems, uncertainty and vulnerability sending the country into a frenzy and a society devoid of God as their sovereign leader. Leaving us exposed to attack from the ills and evils of the world and the devil (Ephesians 6:12). Winston Churchill once said "those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it. First to my commander-in chief, I would like to send my congratulations on your second term as president. I know some may think I'm being cynical and are not fond of me being critical of the President Obama being a black man myself but I'm entitled to my opinion.

By our readiness to allow arms to be purchased at will and fired at whim… we have created an atmosphere in which violence and hatred have become popular pastimes.

- Martin Luther King

There have been mass shootings that have taking place in the last 2 years from VA Tech to Sandy Hook and dating back to Columbine. Is this cause for a war on guns? absolutely! Not to be insensitive to those events, I extend sincere prayers for the families and survivors. See there is just one thing, I grew up in "the city that care forgot," and the environment myself and countless others call home throughout the inner cities of America have been, for lack of a better explanation, desensitized to gun violence. If there was ever to be a ban on guns, it should have come to fruition many moons ago, prior this administration. All I ask of the current administration is to not just focus solely on the recent victims of gun violence but also to include those who live within the confinement of gun violence every day. Expand the budget to get more police on the streets and teachers in school. Also please don't rule out the ingenuity of gun owners and makers. And their lawyers.

It's not a gun control problem; it's a cultural control problem.

- Bob Barr

Everyone in this world is loved and is important to someone. And when a life is lost, grief is undeniably to follow no matter what the circumstances in which the gun violence occurred. Gun control becomes important when the people that are dying are deemed important. Killing associated with inner cities lack significance but the current mass shootings have significance because of the demographic affected. Not racist but the racially motivated. It leaves me quizzical how as one nation supposedly under God, we can turn a blind eye to the killing of one person but be outraged as a nation when another is the victim. So much for liberty and justice for all. What's the difference in being born into any religious community and being born into poverty? None, we are programmed to conform to our surroundings and cling to what is status quo. I'm a major proponent for gun control for all. I'm especially tired of losing black men to it. For every gun murder and incarceration someone is also taking away by the judicial system. If we attack gun violence at its branches and not the roots, it's a futile and fruitless endeavor. Harvesting crop didn't stop world hunger, printing more money hasn't changed poverty and I pray that gun control doesn't cause a rise in gun violence because it has in gun sales

- Chaz Gerard Tyler

OUR LOVE

I want when you're happy I'm happy LOVE
When you're sad I'm sad, When you're sick I'm sick LOVE
When we make each other mad instead of staying mad we
Take the chance to work and make our love stronger LOVE
before for I met you I thought I knew LOVE
now that I have you I truly know love
I trust you and you trust me LOVE
confident you have my best interest LOVE
confiding in your opinion love
making decisions not for me but us LOVE
our babies and our family will be conceived through LOVE
God would be proud of this LOVE
Satan would dive in a cold lake
because what we have is that hot LOVE
we will hold the blueprint to LOVE
instead of the Obama love
everyone will want our love
having eyes only for you love
no one else matters kinda love
others will get sick of our love
but to us what we have is a healing LOVE
we will be the envy of other couples
infectious and noticeable LOVE
And when its all said and done and this life is over
I pray that we leave here together
OUR LOVE

- Chaz Gerard Tyler

I want God to Stay

I've been on a hiatus. But I'm back! I was hearing a lot of fuss about the song Stay performed buy Rihanna and Mikky Ekko. After hearing it on repeat and listening to the lyrics in depth, I thought how great a song it would be if it was sung to God with just a few tweaks. I'm going to trying a break it down, specifically Rihanna's verse. As I listened to the song it reminded me of someone alone talking to God. In my opinion, the lyrical content regards the temptation and failure of finding a true love. Here goes nothing. Stay with me (no pun intended)

All along it was a fever: is that moment in the middle of the night lost in thought. Worried endlessly and hopeless to no end. A cold sweat hot-headed believer: are those tears that soak pillows and waking up boiling from hiding under the covers from troubles. Or feverish because of the many sleepless nights that hinder our immune systems from doing its jobs. I threw my hands in the air and said, "Show me something,": asking God why!? Wondering why is this my life and what did I do to deserve this. Imploring, reasoning and trying to bargain with God answers and a sign that her loves us. He said, "If you dare come a little closer.": then God urging us to come closer to and trust and believe Him, Without a doubt, earnestly and sincere. Round and around and around and around we go Oh now tell me now tell me now tell me now you know: we send ourselves into a whirlwind of emotions still after God dares us to trust Him. God knows if we trust Him we will be fulfilled. Not really sure how to feel about it. Something in the way you move: once you accept God, the feeling is overwhelming. You know by the way His love enters into your life. Makes me feel like I can't live without you. It takes me all the way. I want you to stay: True agape love and an intimate relationship with God is second to none. Jeopardizing and risking experiencing that loneliness again, not happening. I want God to stay and so should you!

God is the ultimate relationship partner. Unknowingly to most, God is
everything we yearn for. Unassuming and unparalleled when it comes to love, consistency, understanding, and forgiving. I dare you to give God an unbiased, wholeheartedly, undoubtedly, and trusting chance (1John 4:16). With any relationship you get out what you put in. Go all in with God and you'll know true love.

John 14: 23 Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.

- Chaz Gerard Tyler

Loyalty to God

Everyone says that the world lacks loyalty. And turn around and praise God. How can that be so as it is such a contradictory act. Are we really loyal to God? When life is in our favor we make little mention of God. When life takes a turn for the worst many can be heard from afar professing how great God is. Believing that he will fix whatever it may be hindering our progress or putting a halt to our goals in life. Trust and believing wholly that we will get what we want if we just praise and believe in God. That word believe. Many believe but very few follow( Matthew 7:21-23). Failing to realize that this life and this body we think are ours is a blessing from a God; His will he done while in this short existence. When will we be sold out for God? Look at your life and see how much you worry about, money, men/women, work what others think of you and the like. Now how much do you worry about pleasing God!? You may not miss a Sunday. But what are you doing to protect the bride of Jesus Christ. Our lives are full of so many activities that the vast majority only have time on Sunday for God. Outside of church we don't minister. We don't exhort, reprove or rebuke those who are doing what opposes God. Not that you have to go and use the bible as a hammer but peacefully with love and long suffering. If someone needs your help or assistance and you can provide it, do you or do you make an excuse why you can't. Remember God hates and all liars, little white ones and the big ones are on a course to perish. I think WWJD do is a slogan that should be applied to your thinking all day everyday. Just imagine if you offered to your job what you offer God. One day of work. Would you have a job? If you only had one day for your husband or wife how long would your marriage last? If you believe God will give you everything your heart desires and that you will have and abundance of material wealth you better believe Matthew 7:21-23. Don't get confused by preachers, pastors and ministers who teach a gospel that you can have every treasure of your desire. The only thing God promises you a cross to carry everyday and eternal life thereafter (Matthew 16:24-26). Read 2 Corinthians 24-27 and see what Paul suffered while spreading the Word. Not fancy cars, clothes, big homes and extravagant living. It was the antithesis of the very life Christians in our society expect for following Christ. There are churches in abundance. But may I assure you the Christians are few just as they are few in other parts of the world. If you go through life and not suffer or lose anything in the name of Christ you have accept this new form of Christianity. I pray that you reexamine your life and take a close look at what you claim is your walk with Christ. Anything that hinders you from serving the kingdom of God you should rid you life of. If its your family or friends pray and love them and make every effort to convert them because Christ loves sinners and not the sin and they can repent and receive the kingdom of God and eternal life. If your hand is a hindrance cut it off and if its your eye pluck it out. The compensation and body Luke 14:14 and Romans 8:30 we will receive when we expire is nothing short of amazing. God cast satan and his angels out of Heaven and they will surely enter Hell. God sent us Jesus Christ as our Savior for the atonement of our sins. Don't put your eternal life at risk for this temporary life we have now. This is just an interlude to what God has waiting for you if you allow his will to be done and live as Christ did.

KJV Amp 1 Timothy 1:16 But I obtained mercy for the reason that in me, as the foremost [of sinners], Jesus Christ might show forth and display all His perfect long-suffering and patience for an example to [encourage] those who would thereafter believe on Him for [the gaining of] eternal life.
17 Now to the King of eternity, incorruptible and immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory forever and ever (to the ages of ages). Amen (so be it).

- Chaz Gerard Tyler

Our Black Community

Me and my brother had a brief differing of opinions about a statement I posted on Facebook. Unfortunately the premise of this blog is targeted at the black community. Not judge but to open eyes and shed light on what I view as a problem. As a community nationwide we pride ourselves on the work of blacks before us and currently striving in America and rightfully so. The impact MLK, Harry Belafonte, Malcom X, Zora Neale Hurston, Madame CJ Walker and Ida B. Wells to name a few. We say it loud, "I'm black and I'm proud." Recently, President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama have caused morale of the black community to spike. Just the thought of what he has done puts a smile on the faces of blacks throughout America. The strides we have made in the last 50 years is amazing to say the least, and all glory be to God! But there is one significant problem that is overlooked and we are oblivious to it. At the height of the civil rights movement blacks looked out for each other. There was a sense of family and they always reached back to help pull others out of the fray.

1 John 3:17 (KJV amp) But if anyone has this world’s goods (resources for sustaining life) and sees his brother and [a]fellow believer in need, yet closes his heart of compassion against him, how can the love of God live and remain in him?

True there are increasing numbers of blacks who are pursuing and attaining higher education. But let's put this into perspective, there were so few at one point that numbers that indicate a significant increase are extremely skewed. So we lower the standards, disregard the obvious and claim victory. Leaving behind the majority. My views may be seen as negative and cynical but I'm not here to appease this is the bare naked truth. Also we complain that the black youth is severely undereducated. Which is a true statement through and through. History isn't the Gospel and everything taught in school unfortunately isn't true. For example, evolution of man but thats neither here nor there. So why do we complain and leave all the responsibly on the school system to educate our own? Blacks as a whole do a horrendous job at educating our own youth and many loathe the thought of being around the less privileged or uneducated. We can have an adverse affect if we are aberrant in the way our black youth are educated. But as I have grown older and slowly matured, ignorance and misinformation are no excuse. We are fortunate to live in a day and age where we have accessibility to the information only if we choose to seek it. Lastly, once out of a dire life situation contributing knowledge and steps to success are essential to the growth of the black community.

Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from factional motives [through contentiousness, strife, selfishness, or for unworthy ends] or prompted by conceit and empty arrogance. Instead, in the true spirit of humility (lowliness of mind) let each regard the others as better than and superior to himself [thinking more highly of one another than you do of yourselves].

Everyday I see and hear blacks act as if they are above what is going on in the inner cities, also they are reluctant associate with the less privileged and poverty stricken. What a shame! Those same poverty stricken people will have a home more beautiful than the home the nice 3000 square feet you reside in on this earth (Matthew 5:3). It's shocking how so many blacks are blessed to prosper and "get out"; and then suddenly forget their family. The bible tells us that those people are worse than unbelievers and we know unbelievers will perish (1 Timothy 5:8). As I stated previously this isn't an attack on blacks. I just abhor the contradictory that takes place. Celebrating Black History Month but not mirroring those for whom it is celebrated is a futile action. I always like to end on a positive note, so with that being said get out of your comfort zone and engage in the dirty work. Our community is faced with many challenges, contention and erroneous disputes. Lets become similar to Jesus and MLK; be seen as a religious zealot. Nonetheless, what makes it so beautiful is that with empathy for others and hard work supplemented with God, faith and prayer we can and will grow as a black community.

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
― Martin Luther King

Galatians 6: 2 Bear (endure, carry) one another’s burdens and [a]troublesome moral faults, and in this way fulfill and observe perfectly the law of Christ (the Messiah) and complete [b]what is lacking [in your obedience to it].
3 For if any person thinks himself to be somebody [too important to condescend to shoulder another’s load] when he is nobody [of superiority except in his own estimation], he deceives and deludes and cheats himself.

- Chaz Gerard Tyler

Scandal

I've taken a good bit of criticism because of my views on the tv show Scandal. I just ask if you are an avid fan of Scandal to read this as objectively and unbiased as possible. I haven't watched it in its entirety but I think I've seen enough to realize portions of what portrays isn't quite healthy for impressionable women. So many women are looking for a man who will love them and find them desirable that they will go to any length to acquire that. I asked the question "Am I wrong if parts of Scandal reminds me of the love affair slave owners had with female slaves & her having to please him to get by?" Many beg to differ, so because they enjoy the show and others because they would jump the chance to be Olivia and have what they consider romance. Albeit wrapped in adultery, lies and deception. That's their view of love I guess. I'm not judging.


What is happening in America is that television is transforming all serious public business into junk. Television disdains exposition, which is serious, sequential, rational, and complex. It offers instead a mode of discourse in which everything is accessible, simplistic, concrete and above all, entertaining. As a result, America is the world's first culture in jeopardy of amusing itself to death

- Neil Postman

I understand the show is seen as a form of entertainment. Some can differentiate between what's seen on tv and what's reality. But most can't or have a hard time dealing with and accepting reality. Lets think about all the young men and women and even younger girls who view this show. I'm sure Olivia is a statue of empowerment for plenty black women. I just wonder how can the same problems that our society is plagued with can be portrayed on television and viewed as entertainment. Every time I open the paper, a magazine or log onto the Internet I see some sort of scandal. Society is infatuated with scandal and gossip (Romans 1:29-30). Now back to regularly scheduled blog. Those who have a weak mind will view this as acceptable. They will look to peers and influential people in their life for approval. We have to be cognizant we don't unknowingly send someone down the wrong path. (1 Corinthians 8:9-10) These tv shows area tainting the minds of too many and they are convinced that's life. Television doesn't provide the opportunity for us to think outside the box or delve into thought because of its banality. In closing, this wasn't written as a negative review of Scandal. As I wrote this I'm listening to Runaway Girl by Ludacris. Some were that little girl until someone extended a hand and taught you the difference between reality and tv. This was written for the little girl or young women who don't have a father, mother, or strong figure in her life to help her deal with problems such as these. It was written so that if you see someone struggling or in the same situation as Olivia that you who are of a strong mind and good morals that you correct them and lead them in the direction of The Lord. God Bless.

Philippians 2:2-4

Amplified Bible (AMP)

² Fill up and complete my joy by living in harmony and being of the same mind and one in purpose, having the same love, being in full accord and of one harmonious mind and intention.

³ Do nothing from factional motives [through contentiousness, strife, selfishness, or for unworthy ends] or prompted by conceit and empty arrogance. Instead, in the true spirit of humility (lowliness of mind) let each regard the others as better than and superior to himself [thinking more highly of one another than you do of yourselves].

⁴ Let each of you esteem and look upon and be concerned for not [merely] his own interests, but also each for the interests of others.

- Chaz Gerard Tyler

Jesus' Love

We all have characteristics of ourself that we aren't exactly fond of. Jesus loves us anyway. We torture ourselves mentally over our past that constantly haunts us. Jesus loves us even more. Jesus loves us so much that he prays for us when we are reluctant to pray for ourselves (Luke 22:32). We ask why does Jesus love us with all of our shortcomings? It's because he knows that Love conquers all. And if we just trust in him Love will see us through and we can overcome all with Love. We may not be worthy but Jesus was sent by God Almighty to save us with His Love. Recently I wondered how does Jesus feel when his heart is broken. We complain about heartbreak, but we didn't sacrifice our life for others. We lie, try to be deceitful, praise and glorify money and other worldly possession but Jesus is waiting to forgive us. Without hesitation. How wonderful is that. Too often we take Jesus' love for granted and I'm just as guilty as anyone else. If we sincerely repent, comparable to an etch a sketch, Jesus shakes us free of our sins and we are cleared and forgiven. We are free to draw a new life guided by his love.

2 Corinthians 5:17 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:The old has gone, the new is here!

Previously I didn't understand the significance of Jesus' love. Now I know it's because I wasn't eagerly, earnestly and sincerely pursuing it. There isn't any addiction, trouble, crisis, or heartache that can't be cured when we seek the love of Jesus as we seek worldly possession or significance (Proverbs 8:17). Having a relationship with Jesus has giving me the love I sought from others. I urge and it would behoove you seek a relationship with Jesus. No one can love you like he can. Once you experience it, you won't compromise yourself and morals to be loved by a man or woman
(Ephesians 3:17-19). The bible tells us the Jesus came to seek and save those who are lost
(Luke 19:10).

We all know that Jesus was sent to atone for our sins. The treatment he received was extremely harsh. Other than a mother or father, who will endure the ridicule and physical beating Jesus endured. Jesus was called a prince of demons by the same people he came to save. Jesus was beating gruesomely, the scene in the Passion of Christ wasn't remotely close (Isaiah 52:14). Think Emmett Till. And he still carried his cross. Instead of forgoing his crucifixion and fate and coming down of that cross; Jesus endured for us. It wasn't the spikes driven into his hands and feet along with the crown of thorns to mock him that kept him on the cross. It was Jesus' love.

- Chaz Gerard Tyler