Love Isn't In A Phone

I assembled this in response to a blog I came across titled, Locked Phones=Red Flags. Written by AskCheyB is the blog's author. A locked phone doesn't constitute a woman not having trust in a man. It's not a far-fetched idea but its reaching a little. Me personally I keep my phone locked for security reasons. In today's society a lost phone can mean compromising confidential personal information which many have in their hand held device, hence the reason to keep it locked. Don't run someone off trying to be sneaky by investigating his phone without permission. Which makes you no different than the man who may or may not be hiding info in his phone. If a relationship's trust is hinged on if a IPhone is accessible or not, that relationship has deeper problems and there are hidden insecurities that exist. Not to say that men and women don’t keep their phone locked for the aforementioned reason, but if it is that big of an issue its best you end things. A problem as small as a locked cell phone will only open doors to a myriad of trust issues. Trust is defined, reliance on the integrity and integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching. So if he or lacks integrity and not worthy of trust than I suggest you seek another companion who is. Because once you place a negative filter on things you tend to view all things in a negative light and with an obscured reality. Give your man a chance to prove their worth and trust before you jump to conclusion about a locked cell phone. Don't emasculate him by attacking his character and not taking his word as truth. At a certain point he may concede to the lack of trust and seek someone who does value his character and word. It’s the heart of a man you should be after. Ephesians 5:22-23  are two verses to apply to your spirit and life. If a man hasn't openly in his actions submitted to God what do you want with him anyway. Prayer and discernment will help you rid yourself of the stereotypes of men. Making God the center of your relationship and not the judging on whether his phone locked or not is the basis of his true love for you. Don't let lust and loneliness be a deciding factor in your decision. In conclusion, be patient and love yourself. You think you know what you want in a man, but God knows what you need and he will make the addition when and if he sees fit. Focus on God and wait until he guides the proper man into your life.