HAVE communion with few,
Be intimate with ONE,
Deal Justly with all,
Speak evil of NONE.
- The New England Primer
Be intimate with ONE,
Deal Justly with all,
Speak evil of NONE.
- The New England Primer
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Monday, November 26, 2012
You don’t know me, so why do you judge. I may smile
but you don’t know my pain. You see my success but have no clue of my
struggle. Your criticism is motivation, and your slander is a step on my
ladder to being a better me. I have nothing to prove to anyone but me. I
love the spotlight. So keep watching and you might learn something.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
As I sit here and look at pictures of you. Giving thanks for meeting
you and now having you as a part of my life. With every passing second,
thoughts of you pass through my mental. Then I realize that you never
left my mind. It’s the same beautiful thoughts on repeat. Life hasn’t
been the same since you came along. And one thing I know is that I don’t
want to imagine life without. I love you.
- Chaz Tyler
- Chaz Tyler
“I frequently hear people use the term that “life is
a bitch.” Meaning that she is a mad, upset, scorn, whatever term you
wish to describe an upset woman. But just as with a woman if you go
about things recklessly, what else would you expect from her but to give
you hell as you gave her. Go about life following God and living it
with respect, love and loyalty and this life reciprocate the same. So
instead of feeling as if life is a bitch. Life will be that good woman
that we all know and love.”
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
People
Sometimes God has a funny way of putting people in your life. Some
positive and some negative, but they all serve the same purpose. Those
who are temporary often teach us a lesson or open our eyes to things we
are oblivious to. Then there are those who jump in and out of our life
to test what those temporary beings left us with. To see if we are going
to learn from or continue to make the same mistakes. Then there are
those who become a constant in our lives. Providing that love and care
that we need dealing with temporary and Houdini-esque here today, gone
tomorrow people. No matter what, they are always there and a lot of the
time we may not know it until we need them. Some family and some
friends, always loyal and loving nonetheless. As close as we can get to
the love of God on this earth.
- Chaz Tyler
- Chaz Tyler
As much work as we put into our physical and
superficial appearance. We should work even harder on our spiritual and
mental health also. All go hand in hand. When we are mentally focused
and spiritually cleansed and fulfilled. Our physical will exceed
expectations that we otherwise wouldn’t be able to obtain without God
guiding out spirit and our mind.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
Words hurt more than physical wounds for only one
specific reason. The person who usually spews them hold a special place
in our lives and or heart. And the thought of them thinking of us in a
negative manner and then expressing it verbally cuts deeper than any
physical wound. We should all think before we speak, be considerate and
show empathy to others.
- Chaz G. tyler
- Chaz G. tyler
Eternal Life or Eternal Death
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me;
your rod and your staff, they comfort me. (Psalm 23:4 ESV)
As we walk through life or would you say as our souls are in these earthly bodies. Born into this world a sinner. Which could be taken as the valley of the shadow of death. Think of everything that surrounds us each day. All the sin, temptation and deception. Only to be saved by the grace of God. We are given free will to choose right from wrong. Will fold under the pressures of the world? Or will you fight back resisting and living as Jesus Christ did? A life lived for God, selfless, knowing you’ll get your riches when you’re called home.
As a people no matter our race, creed or color. We tend to live in fear. Our faith is constantly shaken, it lacks consistency. Comparable to a leaf on the wind, when favorable we believe and when the gust arrive we let doubt creep in. Is that faith? Do we truly trust God? We believe and we pray but there is always a inkling of doubt in our mind. God wants us to have faith and follow him no matter the situation. We are quick to ask why God? Even informed why, God’s knowledge is of an understanding that we don’t posses.
The one understanding we do posses is that God said he will never forsake us or give us more than we can bear. We have more faith that we can change a man or woman in due time. The same faith should be bestowed upon God. In due time when God sees fit he will deliver us from whatever troubles or afflictions we may have. Your faith and prayer are the rod and staff that should comfort you in any dilemma, troubling time, or life event that seems to much to bear.
As we pass through this life full of death. God is with you. Lean on your faith as if a man with one leg leans on his crutch. Be stubborn when faced with sin, deception and temptation. And always remember: Romans 6:23 for the wages of son is death, but the gift of God is the eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
- Chaz Tyler
your rod and your staff, they comfort me. (Psalm 23:4 ESV)
As we walk through life or would you say as our souls are in these earthly bodies. Born into this world a sinner. Which could be taken as the valley of the shadow of death. Think of everything that surrounds us each day. All the sin, temptation and deception. Only to be saved by the grace of God. We are given free will to choose right from wrong. Will fold under the pressures of the world? Or will you fight back resisting and living as Jesus Christ did? A life lived for God, selfless, knowing you’ll get your riches when you’re called home.
As a people no matter our race, creed or color. We tend to live in fear. Our faith is constantly shaken, it lacks consistency. Comparable to a leaf on the wind, when favorable we believe and when the gust arrive we let doubt creep in. Is that faith? Do we truly trust God? We believe and we pray but there is always a inkling of doubt in our mind. God wants us to have faith and follow him no matter the situation. We are quick to ask why God? Even informed why, God’s knowledge is of an understanding that we don’t posses.
The one understanding we do posses is that God said he will never forsake us or give us more than we can bear. We have more faith that we can change a man or woman in due time. The same faith should be bestowed upon God. In due time when God sees fit he will deliver us from whatever troubles or afflictions we may have. Your faith and prayer are the rod and staff that should comfort you in any dilemma, troubling time, or life event that seems to much to bear.
As we pass through this life full of death. God is with you. Lean on your faith as if a man with one leg leans on his crutch. Be stubborn when faced with sin, deception and temptation. And always remember: Romans 6:23 for the wages of son is death, but the gift of God is the eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
- Chaz Tyler
When one harbors envy in their soul there is no way
they can have peace. Continued prosperity and success by those they
despise will haunt them like a man possessed. However, continue on the
path God has for you, don’t be deterred or succumb to negativity.
Instead of judging, pray for them. They need God more than they may ever
know.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases. (Song of Solomon 8:4 ESV)
Proceeding to quickly is the leading cause of heartache. When the love is genuine, being patient isn’t a problem. Love will naturally take it’s course. And it’s beautiful when it’s lead by God.
- Chaz Tyler
Proceeding to quickly is the leading cause of heartache. When the love is genuine, being patient isn’t a problem. Love will naturally take it’s course. And it’s beautiful when it’s lead by God.
- Chaz Tyler
I refuse to believe ignorance is bliss. In reality
ignorance is just that, ignorance. Being content with ignorance in terms
of education, life, or a situation is everything but bliss. Ignorance
has never been a valid excuse or explanation. Once reality arrives and
you are faced with what you considered bliss it leads to heartaches,
headaches, and pain. Equip yourself with knowledge. Don’t be oblivious
to what’s going on around and inside you. Once secure, there is comfort
in knowing. Knowledge is bliss.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
No burden is too heavy. No waters are too deep. No
situation is too tough. God isn’t testing us. He lets us face a burden
to strengthen us. Waters to cleanse us and situations to sharpen our
decision making. Remember God is your shelter and he wants us to come to
him with all our troubles. God. Pray. Faith. Love. Life
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
A smile on someone’s face only tells half the story
of what’s going on inside. Behind some smiles are worry and hurt.
Exhausted from maintaining a front. Look into their eyes, underneath
those bags. The wrinkle in the corner of their eyes and foreheads. Now
are they really happy or asking for a ear to hear or a hand to help. Be
each others keeper.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
Love and Faith
Your picture of what you think life should be may not be exactly what God has in store for you.
Be it man or woman we all have an idea of what we want out of our life partner. We have all painted a picture in our mind what they will be physically and financially . How they will treat us. Spiritually how they will help us save our soul. Mental stimulation they will provide and the sexual intensity they will spark in our life, and the like. We know what our babies will look and be like also, our little boys will be athletes and our little girls models. The perfect life, happily ever after. In a perfect world, or utopia of course
But when you clasp your hands, bow your head and ask God for that special someone, God has who he wants us to be with and it may not mirror what we want. The person who comes along may not be completely what you had in mind but exactly what God has in store for you. No one we meet will ever be a finished product.
God will place them in your life so that you can be the person who helps them reach their peak potential. Or he may put that person in your life to help you reach your peak potential. Yes we ultimately have the choice of whom we want to be with, but it might not be whom God sees fit for us. Being with someone who doesn’t have the same goals in life in all aspects can become an exercise in futility trying make it last, for lack of a better term.
We all ask the question. How do I know if this person is right for me, the person I prayed and asked God for. This is where your faith will be put to the test. Building a foundation together with God. Trusting and forgiving each other constantly. Putting your partner first, being supportive of one another. Last but not being friends and enjoying each other. One second, one minute, one hour and one day at a time. Hard a task it may be, just know that God will never lead you astray.
- Chaz G. Tyler
Be it man or woman we all have an idea of what we want out of our life partner. We have all painted a picture in our mind what they will be physically and financially . How they will treat us. Spiritually how they will help us save our soul. Mental stimulation they will provide and the sexual intensity they will spark in our life, and the like. We know what our babies will look and be like also, our little boys will be athletes and our little girls models. The perfect life, happily ever after. In a perfect world, or utopia of course
But when you clasp your hands, bow your head and ask God for that special someone, God has who he wants us to be with and it may not mirror what we want. The person who comes along may not be completely what you had in mind but exactly what God has in store for you. No one we meet will ever be a finished product.
God will place them in your life so that you can be the person who helps them reach their peak potential. Or he may put that person in your life to help you reach your peak potential. Yes we ultimately have the choice of whom we want to be with, but it might not be whom God sees fit for us. Being with someone who doesn’t have the same goals in life in all aspects can become an exercise in futility trying make it last, for lack of a better term.
We all ask the question. How do I know if this person is right for me, the person I prayed and asked God for. This is where your faith will be put to the test. Building a foundation together with God. Trusting and forgiving each other constantly. Putting your partner first, being supportive of one another. Last but not being friends and enjoying each other. One second, one minute, one hour and one day at a time. Hard a task it may be, just know that God will never lead you astray.
- Chaz G. Tyler
You shouldn’t consider anyone to be your wife or
husband until that woman or man has married into a religious
relationship with God. Once God is the center of a relationship and you
love one another the way God loves the church. How can you go wrong?
Put God first and he will see it through.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
“When we look back on our past transgressions.
Anything that bothered or hurt us and or the ones we love. Think about
whom you were living for. If you weren’t living this life for God and
what he has planned for you, you can’t fault anyone but yourself. As the
old saying goes, it’s never too late for change and our God never gets
tired of forgiving.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
Gerard Franklin
Micah 6:8 he has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord
require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk
humbly with your God?
This particular blog is dedicated to my late uncle Gerard Franklin; hence the title. I chose Micah 6:8 because it describes him perfectly. He was a man whom we should all model ourselves after. We all spend plenty of time trying to find ourselves. When we should take that time and live the life God has set out for us to live. The more we try to figure out what we want out of life opposed to what God has set in place for us, can take a lifetime to figure out. We were put on this earth to do God’s will. Not ours. Not what we think others will find as acceptable, but what our Lord and savior has for us. Matthew 5:48 you therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect. I never realized growing up the kind of person my uncle was until he passed from this world to be with God. No one I have met in my soon to be 26 years of living has lived this verse as my uncle did. There wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do to help others. He was a quiet a man. Very few words unless you knew him. Went about his day living as God wanted. How hard it is in today’s society, to not lust after women, not get caught up chasing money or influenced by our peers or the media to live a life not set for us? If you knew him, the only money that he wouldn’t pass up was a penny, nickel, dime or quarter lying on the street. Well Gerard did it on a daily basis, and there isn’t one person that I have met that has done such. He was as close to perfect that I would see on this earth. I sit, day in and day out trying to figure out life. Reading books and articles. Blogs and what’s trending on social networks. When all the while I had the perfect role model on how to live this crazy life under the same roof for 19 years of my life. I always thought he was crazy for not worrying about women or all that this world could offer. When in reality I was the crazy one. Worrying about everything going on around me and things that were out of reach and farfetched. He never had a care in the world, happy all the time and content. Why? Because he lived life the way God wanted him to. Only time he complained was when the Saints lost. Doesn’t everyone in New Orleans. WHO DAT! I sit here wishing I had his faith and strength to endure this crazy world. 2 Timothy 3:17 that the man of God may be equipped for every work A heart and conscience of God; prayer and endurance to resist every temptation, which he faced. How I wish sometimes I had just one of those qualities figured out. He was an overall good person. The person I will try and model myself after. In no way am I making him a saint. I just want to share the impact he left on me in his death. One of the tools of God every man should posses is the power to let God show through you and influence others to follow your lead and be like Christ. That’s the tool he possessed I doubt he even knows he had it. A true role model, man of faith and God.
- Chaz G. Tyler
This particular blog is dedicated to my late uncle Gerard Franklin; hence the title. I chose Micah 6:8 because it describes him perfectly. He was a man whom we should all model ourselves after. We all spend plenty of time trying to find ourselves. When we should take that time and live the life God has set out for us to live. The more we try to figure out what we want out of life opposed to what God has set in place for us, can take a lifetime to figure out. We were put on this earth to do God’s will. Not ours. Not what we think others will find as acceptable, but what our Lord and savior has for us. Matthew 5:48 you therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect. I never realized growing up the kind of person my uncle was until he passed from this world to be with God. No one I have met in my soon to be 26 years of living has lived this verse as my uncle did. There wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do to help others. He was a quiet a man. Very few words unless you knew him. Went about his day living as God wanted. How hard it is in today’s society, to not lust after women, not get caught up chasing money or influenced by our peers or the media to live a life not set for us? If you knew him, the only money that he wouldn’t pass up was a penny, nickel, dime or quarter lying on the street. Well Gerard did it on a daily basis, and there isn’t one person that I have met that has done such. He was as close to perfect that I would see on this earth. I sit, day in and day out trying to figure out life. Reading books and articles. Blogs and what’s trending on social networks. When all the while I had the perfect role model on how to live this crazy life under the same roof for 19 years of my life. I always thought he was crazy for not worrying about women or all that this world could offer. When in reality I was the crazy one. Worrying about everything going on around me and things that were out of reach and farfetched. He never had a care in the world, happy all the time and content. Why? Because he lived life the way God wanted him to. Only time he complained was when the Saints lost. Doesn’t everyone in New Orleans. WHO DAT! I sit here wishing I had his faith and strength to endure this crazy world. 2 Timothy 3:17 that the man of God may be equipped for every work A heart and conscience of God; prayer and endurance to resist every temptation, which he faced. How I wish sometimes I had just one of those qualities figured out. He was an overall good person. The person I will try and model myself after. In no way am I making him a saint. I just want to share the impact he left on me in his death. One of the tools of God every man should posses is the power to let God show through you and influence others to follow your lead and be like Christ. That’s the tool he possessed I doubt he even knows he had it. A true role model, man of faith and God.
- Chaz G. Tyler
No matter what. Don’t let any man or woman have
control over you. You are in the driver’s seat. If they can’t comply,
simply let them out and continue your journey. Ditch that rear view
mirror. No looking back, only progress and focus on your bright future
in the Lord. Recalculate your GPS. God’s Positioning System.
- Chaz G. Tyler
- Chaz G. Tyler
Scripture
2 Timothy 3:16
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
This is one of my favorite verses. It lets me know that anytime I have a question or concern, problem or worry; I can turn to the scripture. Thats why I always wondered, why would people try to sell books on how to live like Christ did. When in all reality the only book you need if you want to be Christ-like is the Bible. There is a reason it has been a best selling and most printed book of all time.
I will admit that I’m just starting my journey on reading and learning the Bible. And I understand that it is at times difficult to understand. Prayer before and after for a clear head, understanding and comprehension of what you are ready really works. If you seek God wholeheartedly you will find him. Not my words it comes from the scripture.
A lot of the things we go through everyday can be found in the Bible. There isn’t a problem or situation that God can’t help you with of you’re willing and honestly ready to change. Majority of the problems we encounter are of our own doing. And can be avoided with guidance from God, but it is his will be done and not ours. Giving up or getting rid of whatever that may be hindering us is always a roadblock in making progress to live as Christ did. Not my words, it comes from the scripture.
Going to your Bible will give you the answers needed. Not Steve Harvey’s book or a blog pertaining to your situation. Yes reading them may be entertaining but are they really helping. They have a top 10 list of things plaguing a marriage, but where are the solutions. That’s where scripture comes in, guidance from God. Submission of your old self, not leaning on your wisdom but God’s and having just the faith of a mustard seed. A healthy recipe to resolving, getting rid of worry and doubt and anything that is causing heartache. All found in the scripture that God has prepared for us. Not my words, it comes from the scripture.
When I was young, back when Buck was a pup. I was taught,
B-basic I-instruction B-before L-leaving E-earth. No other acronym describes it better. Pick up your Bible. I look at it as the owner’s manual that came with this life. If you don’t read and things end up in the wrong places, this thing called life can fall apart on you. But if done the right way you will have a well assembled product, ready to endure and beautiful to the eye. Just follow those instructions that are placed in the scriptures and you can’t go wrong. Not my words, it comes from the scripture.
- Chaz G. Tyler
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
This is one of my favorite verses. It lets me know that anytime I have a question or concern, problem or worry; I can turn to the scripture. Thats why I always wondered, why would people try to sell books on how to live like Christ did. When in all reality the only book you need if you want to be Christ-like is the Bible. There is a reason it has been a best selling and most printed book of all time.
I will admit that I’m just starting my journey on reading and learning the Bible. And I understand that it is at times difficult to understand. Prayer before and after for a clear head, understanding and comprehension of what you are ready really works. If you seek God wholeheartedly you will find him. Not my words it comes from the scripture.
A lot of the things we go through everyday can be found in the Bible. There isn’t a problem or situation that God can’t help you with of you’re willing and honestly ready to change. Majority of the problems we encounter are of our own doing. And can be avoided with guidance from God, but it is his will be done and not ours. Giving up or getting rid of whatever that may be hindering us is always a roadblock in making progress to live as Christ did. Not my words, it comes from the scripture.
Going to your Bible will give you the answers needed. Not Steve Harvey’s book or a blog pertaining to your situation. Yes reading them may be entertaining but are they really helping. They have a top 10 list of things plaguing a marriage, but where are the solutions. That’s where scripture comes in, guidance from God. Submission of your old self, not leaning on your wisdom but God’s and having just the faith of a mustard seed. A healthy recipe to resolving, getting rid of worry and doubt and anything that is causing heartache. All found in the scripture that God has prepared for us. Not my words, it comes from the scripture.
When I was young, back when Buck was a pup. I was taught,
B-basic I-instruction B-before L-leaving E-earth. No other acronym describes it better. Pick up your Bible. I look at it as the owner’s manual that came with this life. If you don’t read and things end up in the wrong places, this thing called life can fall apart on you. But if done the right way you will have a well assembled product, ready to endure and beautiful to the eye. Just follow those instructions that are placed in the scriptures and you can’t go wrong. Not my words, it comes from the scripture.
- Chaz G. Tyler
MLK
It’s only right to share this passage because MLK lived and preached this.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you. “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect. (Matthew 5:38-48 ESV)
Open Up
I saw that to say this. Don’t be blind to what is going on around you. We all need to stay aware of the company we keep and our surroundings. When we get caught up and lose sight of what’s right for us we make ourselves vulnerable to be mislead. Not everyone you call a “friend” has our best interest.
How are we to know? That’s a question that could be hard to answer. But if you choose the company you keep and evaluate your circle you don’t have to ask, you already know. Positivity breeds positivity.
What causes us to be blinded? I would say trying to fit in and be accepted is a big one. Of course we all want to be accepted but at what cost? Is it worth tossing everything you believe and stand for? Or losing that special someone? I doubt it but when you allow yourself to get mislead, it isn’t anyone else’s fault, those are the things that tend to happen.
Yes some realize and make a change, others it takes an event or situation to open their eyes. And them there are those who refuse to and continue to let others make up their mind and decisions. Many times have I see people end up in unfortunate situations and are left to fend for themselves by the same people who helped them get there.
Surround yourself with people who have the same goals and trying to reach the same success you want out of life. No matter what it is. Take a step back and evaluate if whomever is helping or hindering your progress. Be unbiased as possible and honest with yourself. Keep those who are positive and deal with those who aren’t on a different level. It’s your life and you are responsible for it.
I won’t lie I was that very person that this blog is about. And the bad part is that I was fine with it. It took somethingsz to happen that weren’t pleasant but I’m glad they did. Thanks to family and friends and my God I’m better because of it.
- Chaz G. Tyler
If you’re married, and you have a wife, and you really love your wife, is it good enough to only say to your wife ‘I love her’ the day you get married? Or should you tell her every single day when you wake up and every opportunity?
“And that’s how I feel about my relationship with Jesus Christ is that it is the most important thing in my life. So any time I get an opportunity to tell him that I love him or given an opportunity to shout him out on national TV, I’m gonna take that opportunity. And so I look at it as a relationship that I have with him that I want to give him the honor and glory anytime I have the opportunity.
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| - Tim Tebow |
Mislead
This post will not be used to bash men at all. (disclaimer) I feel
that plenty of women are mislead I won’t put an age on it. Reality
televison and movies along with the media are to blame. Ladies I
understand you want a good man. A caring and loving man. With a steady
career and of course the better the job the better I completely
understand. A man who provides, physically, emotionally, and financial
security. Nothing wrong with that at all. Ok lets be realisitic now. For
my sisters, there is only one Idris Elba, Will Smith, Barack Obama, and
Denzel Washington to go around. For white girls only one, Justin
Timberlake, George Clooney, and Tom Cruise. The list goes on.
Ladies you can’t take your man and compare him to another man. I have a family full of women and I have been working with plenty women lately and I hear women comparing their man to the guys lsited above. We are individuals no two people are exactly alike not even identical twins. Accept your man for who he is ladies, what happened to, “let me upgrade ya.” If he needs it make him a better man. I hate to be cliche, but behind every good man is a good woman. (Michelle Obama or Coretta Scott King) Don’t make him feel as though he has to be like this fantasy man with all of these unrealistic qualities he needs to possess. He will soon realize that he just isn’t capable of it. I wouldn’t calling it giving up but a man has to be real with himself and understand that he can’t be everything that a woman sees on television and dreams about at night.
What are you bringing to the table? This question you should ask yourself ladies. If you have high standards for you man you have to be able to match those standards. Yes you may want a successful handsome man, but are you the type of woman that man is looking for? You absolutely CAN NOT be expecting the most from a man when he can’t get the same from you. A good man will take care of a woman whom he feels is worthy.
In conclusion to all the ladies, whom all you are beautiful no matter what. If he is a man of God, a provider, protecter, someone who makes you want to be better and loves you for you and more. What’s the problem. Don’t get hung up on this imaginary image of what a man should be. All the money and good looks in the world won’t make your relationship last. Be that strong woman you are, whom your man can lean on when needed. Don’t be mislead by whats on television and the media, who knows what’s really going on behind those cameras
-Chaz G. Tyler
Ladies you can’t take your man and compare him to another man. I have a family full of women and I have been working with plenty women lately and I hear women comparing their man to the guys lsited above. We are individuals no two people are exactly alike not even identical twins. Accept your man for who he is ladies, what happened to, “let me upgrade ya.” If he needs it make him a better man. I hate to be cliche, but behind every good man is a good woman. (Michelle Obama or Coretta Scott King) Don’t make him feel as though he has to be like this fantasy man with all of these unrealistic qualities he needs to possess. He will soon realize that he just isn’t capable of it. I wouldn’t calling it giving up but a man has to be real with himself and understand that he can’t be everything that a woman sees on television and dreams about at night.
What are you bringing to the table? This question you should ask yourself ladies. If you have high standards for you man you have to be able to match those standards. Yes you may want a successful handsome man, but are you the type of woman that man is looking for? You absolutely CAN NOT be expecting the most from a man when he can’t get the same from you. A good man will take care of a woman whom he feels is worthy.
In conclusion to all the ladies, whom all you are beautiful no matter what. If he is a man of God, a provider, protecter, someone who makes you want to be better and loves you for you and more. What’s the problem. Don’t get hung up on this imaginary image of what a man should be. All the money and good looks in the world won’t make your relationship last. Be that strong woman you are, whom your man can lean on when needed. Don’t be mislead by whats on television and the media, who knows what’s really going on behind those cameras
-Chaz G. Tyler
I was listeneng to Wale’s Ambition and heard this line; Nobody wants
to lead because it’s to easy to follow. Somewhere along those lines, but
anyway. In my opinion I feel people are afraid to be themselves so the
take to social media to see what is trending. I can honestly say I was
once guilty of this. Everyone wants to be accepted. No one wants to be
the odd man/woman out. But when we are ourselves that makes us unique,
more noticeable to others. It is easy to blend in, wear what others are
wearing, snapbacks and skinny jeans. Or maybe the latest brand, just as
an example.
What is a follower? A follower is defined as, an adherent or devotee of a particular person, cause, or activity. For the sake of brevity we all know the people, causes and activities that majority are following. I won’t ask why because I feel have a pretty good idea why, the majority can’t be wrong. I beg to differ in most cases, smoking because you think it is cool or getting tatted just because. These two subjects seem to bother me for whatever reason. i will use my time in the military as a reference, this is where I see a good bit of life fabrication.
I see plenty guys who come into the military who are clean cut good guys don’t drink, no tattoos. They get hooked up with the wrong people and feel the have to do certain things because everyone else is and to fit in why not get some tattoos plenty which i have see are meaningless. Why i say meaningless because I ask why and they have no sound reason why. Or I hear because I like this ir that, why? Just because, oh ok cool. Next everyone wants to be a drinker or smoker, becauses of Wiz or Weezy. i see guys drinking who never drunk and tell me I drunk before, really? That statement lets me further know you are reaching to fit in and disaster is ahead. Or guys who come in and claim they smoked more weed that Weezy or drunk lean like they were UGK or were gangbanging or whatever. I’m tired of hearing the stories. They listen to rap songs and try to come back with weight measurments to drugs and double cupping or whatever.
When has being a drug dealer cool or drinkning jusst because cool. Growing up everyone I seen doing it didn’t want to but they had to. It was an only source of income, due to may it be felony convictions, no education or family reasons. That is why it burns me to see people following and thinking this is a cool thing to do. It really isn’t. I hate seeing my generation misguided by the media I won’t blame it on parents solely. If parents are anything like my mother then it isn’t there fault. I’m more than positive that the majority of parents are hardworking, honest, and caring people who set a good example for their kids. They want there kids to be better than them. We don’t need more positive role models there are plenty. They are followed by people who want to be positive or take that path in life and the same goes for the sold called “bad role models.” We all choose to follow who we would like to model ourselves after. A role model is just that be it labeled good or bad.
I pray everyone, whomever they choose to follow can differentiate right from wrong and make the right decisions. A great leader was once a follower at one point. They took what they learned and used to lead others and make a difference, good or bad. All great leaders weren’t good people. In my opinion we are all leaders and follwers at the same time, so follow the right people so that you won’t lead those who follow you astray.
In conclusion take a step back and reevaluate who you are modeling yourself after and make sure that person is headed in the direction you want your future to be headed. If not, its never to late to make a positive change.
- Chaz G. Tyler
What is a follower? A follower is defined as, an adherent or devotee of a particular person, cause, or activity. For the sake of brevity we all know the people, causes and activities that majority are following. I won’t ask why because I feel have a pretty good idea why, the majority can’t be wrong. I beg to differ in most cases, smoking because you think it is cool or getting tatted just because. These two subjects seem to bother me for whatever reason. i will use my time in the military as a reference, this is where I see a good bit of life fabrication.
I see plenty guys who come into the military who are clean cut good guys don’t drink, no tattoos. They get hooked up with the wrong people and feel the have to do certain things because everyone else is and to fit in why not get some tattoos plenty which i have see are meaningless. Why i say meaningless because I ask why and they have no sound reason why. Or I hear because I like this ir that, why? Just because, oh ok cool. Next everyone wants to be a drinker or smoker, becauses of Wiz or Weezy. i see guys drinking who never drunk and tell me I drunk before, really? That statement lets me further know you are reaching to fit in and disaster is ahead. Or guys who come in and claim they smoked more weed that Weezy or drunk lean like they were UGK or were gangbanging or whatever. I’m tired of hearing the stories. They listen to rap songs and try to come back with weight measurments to drugs and double cupping or whatever.
When has being a drug dealer cool or drinkning jusst because cool. Growing up everyone I seen doing it didn’t want to but they had to. It was an only source of income, due to may it be felony convictions, no education or family reasons. That is why it burns me to see people following and thinking this is a cool thing to do. It really isn’t. I hate seeing my generation misguided by the media I won’t blame it on parents solely. If parents are anything like my mother then it isn’t there fault. I’m more than positive that the majority of parents are hardworking, honest, and caring people who set a good example for their kids. They want there kids to be better than them. We don’t need more positive role models there are plenty. They are followed by people who want to be positive or take that path in life and the same goes for the sold called “bad role models.” We all choose to follow who we would like to model ourselves after. A role model is just that be it labeled good or bad.
I pray everyone, whomever they choose to follow can differentiate right from wrong and make the right decisions. A great leader was once a follower at one point. They took what they learned and used to lead others and make a difference, good or bad. All great leaders weren’t good people. In my opinion we are all leaders and follwers at the same time, so follow the right people so that you won’t lead those who follow you astray.
In conclusion take a step back and reevaluate who you are modeling yourself after and make sure that person is headed in the direction you want your future to be headed. If not, its never to late to make a positive change.
- Chaz G. Tyler
When?
When will the crime stop? It is plauging the black
community especially. The value of human life is decreasing at an
alarming rate. There are many situations that factor into it but still
no reason to take a life. A mother and son slain, and another family
left to deal with grief and sadness.
When your living in it, it is easy to say ”thats life”. But is it really life? To take a life with no regard. At one time i will admit that i was stuck in that minsed and with that thinking and way of life. Being away from home for six years now has changed my perspective. There is much more to life and much more to experience and enjoy. Honestly I feel that when the Lord calls its time to go, but it is still hard for me to cope with someone being murdered behind a bad situation.
Experiencing someone close to you on more than one occasion and in the same manner, more than not make you numb to a way of life. First hand seeing and experiencing death and grief I’m a frim believer. It is something dealt with in inner city neighborhoods all around America. It is a vicious cycle (hate to be cliche), can it be stopped, yes but it takes more than an Obama election. Its take a dedicated and involed community. No way should a mother AND chiild meet there demise, in such a viloent manner. My prayer and condolences to the family and friends, whom I know a few of.
No one person elected, speaking out, or concerend can make the change alone. Thats why we should pray for ourselves and others. It’s a crazy world out there. Let’s try to come to a resolution to situations in a peaceful manner. I think the old, WWJD- What would Jesus do, bracelets and way of thinking that came and went would be a nice mindset to follow. Let’s make it a trending topic a la Twitter.
P.S. easier typed than done. God Bless.
- Chaz G. Tyler
When your living in it, it is easy to say ”thats life”. But is it really life? To take a life with no regard. At one time i will admit that i was stuck in that minsed and with that thinking and way of life. Being away from home for six years now has changed my perspective. There is much more to life and much more to experience and enjoy. Honestly I feel that when the Lord calls its time to go, but it is still hard for me to cope with someone being murdered behind a bad situation.
Experiencing someone close to you on more than one occasion and in the same manner, more than not make you numb to a way of life. First hand seeing and experiencing death and grief I’m a frim believer. It is something dealt with in inner city neighborhoods all around America. It is a vicious cycle (hate to be cliche), can it be stopped, yes but it takes more than an Obama election. Its take a dedicated and involed community. No way should a mother AND chiild meet there demise, in such a viloent manner. My prayer and condolences to the family and friends, whom I know a few of.
No one person elected, speaking out, or concerend can make the change alone. Thats why we should pray for ourselves and others. It’s a crazy world out there. Let’s try to come to a resolution to situations in a peaceful manner. I think the old, WWJD- What would Jesus do, bracelets and way of thinking that came and went would be a nice mindset to follow. Let’s make it a trending topic a la Twitter.
P.S. easier typed than done. God Bless.
- Chaz G. Tyler
Is the grass really greener?
Is the grass really greener on the other side? Or is it artificial
grass covering up what’s really there. That term is used very loosely.
How are you sure the grass is greener from the outside looking in. Maybe
the grass is the ideal green because it hasn’t been tampered with to
see if it will withstand harsh conditions.
Don’t be quick to drop and run to greener pastures. If you want your lawn to be that, greener on the other side, it takes maintenance. Unless you want that artificial look, that is perfectly laid down. Now peel it back and what is underneath. Surprise, surprise not exactly what you thought. You can only patch things up for so long. It requires more work than you would believe and yes it looks nice on the surface but beneath it is slowly falling apart, waiting on that next repair.
As a landscaper in your relationship you have to steadily work on the upkeep. Everyday checking the weeds, pulling out those small problems. Cutting away the excess that tries to attack you garden and lawn so that it stays healthy and able to blossom. And watering often so that it continues to grow. Keeping a close watch on it as it grows into something beautiful that makes you proud to call it yours.
So when your thinking about jumping the gate, keep in consideration if it’s really that great, be weary of the groundskeeper on duty.
- Chaz G. Tyler
Don’t be quick to drop and run to greener pastures. If you want your lawn to be that, greener on the other side, it takes maintenance. Unless you want that artificial look, that is perfectly laid down. Now peel it back and what is underneath. Surprise, surprise not exactly what you thought. You can only patch things up for so long. It requires more work than you would believe and yes it looks nice on the surface but beneath it is slowly falling apart, waiting on that next repair.
As a landscaper in your relationship you have to steadily work on the upkeep. Everyday checking the weeds, pulling out those small problems. Cutting away the excess that tries to attack you garden and lawn so that it stays healthy and able to blossom. And watering often so that it continues to grow. Keeping a close watch on it as it grows into something beautiful that makes you proud to call it yours.
So when your thinking about jumping the gate, keep in consideration if it’s really that great, be weary of the groundskeeper on duty.
- Chaz G. Tyler
Open letter to Mom
As I sit here I remember all the things my mom has done for me. She
is a true blessing. My role model. They say a woman can’t raise a man
but I beg to differ. Why can’t a woman raise a man, because the cliche
saying goes behind every good man is a good woman.
A good woman she is indeed. I don’t need Mother’s Day to celebrate her I do it everyday with the hardwork and discipline she planted in me long time ago. Even though those seeds were planted with leather belts and stern punishment it grew into the man I am today.
Yes I put here through plenty headaches and heartaches but her love never faded it grew and it made her love me more. There isn’t any one thing i can do to pay her back but work hard and become a successful man. I know that is all she wanted for me and I love her for that.
They say hindsight is 20/20 and I totally agree. All of the what I thought then were beatings and cruel punishment was nothing but tough love. She was preparing me for this crazy world and I am forever thankful for that.
In conclusion, a mother is irreplaceable you only get one be sure to tell her you love her often. If can’t find motivation let her be it. I wouldn’t be where I am now without her. I Love you Mom.
- Chaz G. Tyler
A good woman she is indeed. I don’t need Mother’s Day to celebrate her I do it everyday with the hardwork and discipline she planted in me long time ago. Even though those seeds were planted with leather belts and stern punishment it grew into the man I am today.
Yes I put here through plenty headaches and heartaches but her love never faded it grew and it made her love me more. There isn’t any one thing i can do to pay her back but work hard and become a successful man. I know that is all she wanted for me and I love her for that.
They say hindsight is 20/20 and I totally agree. All of the what I thought then were beatings and cruel punishment was nothing but tough love. She was preparing me for this crazy world and I am forever thankful for that.
In conclusion, a mother is irreplaceable you only get one be sure to tell her you love her often. If can’t find motivation let her be it. I wouldn’t be where I am now without her. I Love you Mom.
- Chaz G. Tyler
Bitches and Sisters
Sisters hold you down, Bitches hold you up - Jay Z
Which would you choose a sister or a bitch? In my opinion the latter term is in high demand. Why? Yes they are beautiful women but they don't pose a threat to today's male. Buy her a few things, throw her some money from time to time and you will pretty much have her at your disposal. In my opinion I feel most men are content with this choice, no commitment, she has no voice, and she can be dumped when he is done with her. No disrespect to any woman who chooses this or who may be fine with this lifestyle.
Sisters, oh how I love them. Yes they can be difficult, headstrong, and opinionated. Why? Yes they are also beautiful women. Can I add they are educated, goal oriented just to name a few. No offense to the previous but they are educated and goal oriented also. Educated in finding a man with money or status. and goal oriented in getting him to fulfill her request. I want me a sister. She has my back, my best interest in mind, and she is my best friend. We can talk about anything, if i needed her I could depend on her to hold me down no matter the situation. She is the definition of independent, that's why some men shy away from her and say I'll just get me a bad bitch and not a bad sister.
Sisters will make great mothers, wives, and can handle her finances. (and possibly her man if needed). You can take a sister home to mom and mom will love her, your boys will tell their girls to step it up and other men will envy you. She spews confidence, beauty and intelligence. I can go all night but i will get off my soapbox. In conclusion: I LOVE MY SISTERS I DON'T LOVE NO BITCH!!!!!!!
Which would you choose a sister or a bitch? In my opinion the latter term is in high demand. Why? Yes they are beautiful women but they don't pose a threat to today's male. Buy her a few things, throw her some money from time to time and you will pretty much have her at your disposal. In my opinion I feel most men are content with this choice, no commitment, she has no voice, and she can be dumped when he is done with her. No disrespect to any woman who chooses this or who may be fine with this lifestyle.
Sisters, oh how I love them. Yes they can be difficult, headstrong, and opinionated. Why? Yes they are also beautiful women. Can I add they are educated, goal oriented just to name a few. No offense to the previous but they are educated and goal oriented also. Educated in finding a man with money or status. and goal oriented in getting him to fulfill her request. I want me a sister. She has my back, my best interest in mind, and she is my best friend. We can talk about anything, if i needed her I could depend on her to hold me down no matter the situation. She is the definition of independent, that's why some men shy away from her and say I'll just get me a bad bitch and not a bad sister.
Sisters will make great mothers, wives, and can handle her finances. (and possibly her man if needed). You can take a sister home to mom and mom will love her, your boys will tell their girls to step it up and other men will envy you. She spews confidence, beauty and intelligence. I can go all night but i will get off my soapbox. In conclusion: I LOVE MY SISTERS I DON'T LOVE NO BITCH!!!!!!!
Social Networking
Don't run to Twitter or FB with your problems. Bring them to God.
Mention them in prayer and God would LIKE to fix them. In today's
society we tend to find ourselves running to social networks for
clarification and direction. Why??? How can we run to people with
troubles give us direction? These are the same people who
post one thing and we see them out and about contradicting themselves.
For example, don't get me wrong yes some of these people may be our
friends, but honestly we have to consider the source. How can a girl/boy
friend who has been single since you have known them honestly go on FB
and comment or "mention" about a relationship, C'Mon Man.
"I saw your tweet are you talking about me" Subtweets or indirect comments on FB. It has come to a time now that we can't talk to someone face to face. We would rather do it on FB or Twitter. Why is that? Social networking provides an avenue for us to vent and express ourselves without being seen. Why, you can hide your raw emotions. No one wants to seem weak or concerned or not concerned enough. Log on social media and rant, "i don't care, you got me fucked up. In all reality you do care you want to care. Maybe sometimes if you show you are concerned it will allieviate the problem so that you can move on or build on your relationship.
In conclusion,Tom Anderson, Mark Zuckerberg and Jack Dorsey created their sites for social networking lets use them were intended for. Don't live your life through social networking it doesn't solve problems it compounds them. Whatever you spiritual denomination is put it in action. Me, I believe in God so that who I pray to and bring all my problems, concerns and troubles to him and I suggest you do the same.
"I saw your tweet are you talking about me" Subtweets or indirect comments on FB. It has come to a time now that we can't talk to someone face to face. We would rather do it on FB or Twitter. Why is that? Social networking provides an avenue for us to vent and express ourselves without being seen. Why, you can hide your raw emotions. No one wants to seem weak or concerned or not concerned enough. Log on social media and rant, "i don't care, you got me fucked up. In all reality you do care you want to care. Maybe sometimes if you show you are concerned it will allieviate the problem so that you can move on or build on your relationship.
In conclusion,Tom Anderson, Mark Zuckerberg and Jack Dorsey created their sites for social networking lets use them were intended for. Don't live your life through social networking it doesn't solve problems it compounds them. Whatever you spiritual denomination is put it in action. Me, I believe in God so that who I pray to and bring all my problems, concerns and troubles to him and I suggest you do the same.
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